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Emasculation vs Feminization: A Critical Distinction in the BDSM Community PART II


This is the continuation of “Emasculation vs Feminization: A Critical Distinction in the BDSM Community PART I

For me, there’s something wonderful about seeing willingly feminized men. I’ve ranted and raved against emasculation in my real world and in a lot of my writings. I think it damages society.

Forcing any gender identity to break from the gender binary only serves to psychologically damage people. Allowing a person to learn to identify their gender is perfectly fine, but telling males they must be more emotional simply isn’t right.

Forced feminization—emasculation—is nothing but a detriment to society. However, sissification is something I applaud. Not because I’m a gender fluid male who often wears make-up, epilates, lover her polish and other accoutrement. No. I applaud any man who’s willing to accept his feminine side in any capacity to to embrace it. One doesn’t have to identify as a transgender female submissive to embrace one’s feminine side.

However, if society stopped the emasculation we’d all be better off. But the aim of so many is to bring down the Patriarchy and to create men as the villains and low-lifes. Not all men are.Kiiroo Onyx2 Male Masturbator

The main issue here is while we want our children, male and female and other, to be who they are, culture still forces us into a binary. A man is a man. A woman is a woman. Men are ogres. Women are princesses. But sometimes a woman is king and a man is a princess.

When culture forces men to “be a man”—like my father forced me, which forced me to hide my gender fluidity—we make those males who are truly male, those who are stacked with testosterone and are those “manly” Alpha males, less of men than they are meant to be. In the process, we degrade difference, relegating it to some perversion, which it isn’t. Nature selected them as testosterone-filled heterosexual Alpha males; why mess with nature? But the rest of us aren’t filled with testosterone. We are the gender fluid, transgender, crossdressers, sissies, etc. We are no less men than we are no less female.

Don’t get me wrong, culture does the same for women. We force “femininity” on them, and judge them when they become hyper-feminine or “too” masculine; when a woman cuts her hair, dresses in stereotypical male attire and acts in a manner typical of the “man,” culture is trying to reinforce the gender binary by calling them names. But some women simply want to wear pants. There’s nothing wrong with that. But it’s still not the same for these folks; there’s still significant stigma with men feminizing, whether as cross dressers, gerls, gurls, transitioning, or some other reason. Unfortunately, it’s actually easier for a woman to be “manly” than a man to be “womanly,” though.

What we need to do is teach our boys that crying, playing with Barbies, wearing dresses, putting on heels and bras and make up are not bad things. Accepting their boys in this way means they will be confident discussing all matters of courtship with their parents and they will better understand themselves too. It should be their choice, but parents need to learn to allow the boys to be who they are.

When the male chooses to be “forced” into feminization for some sexual exploration, or decides he likes it, or his wife dresses him up, or he tries drag, or whatever the reason, we don’t have men confused and committing suicide because society told them they aren’t “a man” for being masculine.

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When we teach our boys they can wear a dress and it doesn’t matter what anyone at school or society say, THEN we progress forward in our society.

Then the United States can call ourselves a nation of equality.

Then we are who we claim to be.

A country which is open to all religions, all ethnicities, all genders, all sexual identities.

A country which is a melting pot of diversity which actually, amazingly, gets along.

But we must start with teaching our boys it’s okay, not forcing them into gender specific roles, but teaching them it’s okay if they have a non-conformist, non-binary gender identity, a fluidity of gender. Women often have it. Males can too. It’s natural, and not something of which one should be afraid.

 

Miss Ruby

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