An Assortment of (mainly) BDSM and Kink Questions: Daddy Kenneth Scott

By 2019-03-22Uncategorized

Each week (hopefully), Collared Girls will be highlighting a person or persons within the BDSM/kink community. Each have been kind enough to answer a series of questions describing their lifestyle, offering advice to others, and just having some fun (FYI: The answer to #8 should ALWAYS be “crunchy”). We know each of us have a different vantage point and view of our Dominance and submissiveness. We want to know more. By knowing more, we learn more. And isn’t our lifestyle, in all its variations, about learning and guiding and growing in order to be better people, more open and honest and happier? We are all slightly different in our practices and seeing and reading and hearing what others in our community do often helps inform our own practices. This week, we are happy to post the answers to our questions. This week is:  Kenneth Scott:  

  • What type of Dominant do you describe yourself as (Daddy/Mommy, Lifestyle, Financial, etc.)?

My role has changed somewhat over the last twenty-three years, though I currently describe myself as a Daddy w/out Little since I don’t engage in age-play with my sub.   

  • How would you describe being a Dominant to the layperson?

My particular style of domination is very service-oriented, I care for the both the physical and emotional needs of my submissive. It isn’t about issuing commands or delivering punishments for my own enjoyment. It is about taking on an active role in the bedroom and giving pleasure to my sub in whatever way she desires.  

  • How’d you get started? Tell us about how you discovered your dominant persona?

At the age of 15 in my first long-term sexual relationship we experimented with d/s though I was in the submissive role. Once I became a young adult I started a relationship with an experienced pro-domme in my local scene as her slave, I was very bratty and kept trying to take on the control (which is very poor sub behaviour). She helped me to discover that I am truly a dominant and she became my mentor in the world of BDSM.  

  • What is your favorite toy? Do you have a set of beloved go-to toys that you enjoy most of all? Would you share with us what they might be?

For many years I was reluctant to use toys having a more primal dominant style but my sub loves her toys and it’s really all about her needs so we generally use quite a few. Bondage gear is cuffs/straps(I suck with rope), impact toys are leather crop and cat-o-nine flogger. Lots of butt-plugs/vibrators in our kit but tempered-glass/rechargeable waterproof g-spot w/ rabbit are our respective favourites.   

  • What is the one thing that’s most misunderstood about our lifestyle?

People often hear that I am a Daddy-Dom and think it must have an incest/pedophilia vibe about it, when it is really about love, affection, discipline and personal growth.  

  • Describe your relationship status (single, poly, married and poly, D/s only with no outside involvement, etc.):

I met my sub nearly 15 years ago on a BDSM hook-up website and we’ve been married for almost 10 years now and we are monogamous. To us though being Owned is a valid relationship status.  

  • Totally random: If you could be any other creature (besides human), what would it be and why?

Going to go mythical here, a Centaur; so I could accompany my god Bacchus the Liberator to his drunken woodland orgies.  

  • Another totally random question: Crunchy or smooth peanut butter, and why?

I am a crunchy man myself, but I prefer peanuts to nut-butter on the whole…  

  • What’s been your BEST/most rewarding experience in the lifestyle?

Finding and marrying the sub of my dreams still enriches my life in the most fulfilling of ways daily, and kink made it all possible.  

  • Conversely, what’s been your worst experience?

Foolishly submitting to a domme with no experience who accidentally caused some permanent damage to my anal region before I could safe-word out…  

  • What are your favorite sites? They don’t even need to be BDSM/kink related.

 I participate heavily in the community on Twitter, Reddit, and my Blog.   

  • What advice do you have for newbies to the lifestyle? What do you recommend as the first step into BDSM people take? Why?

Don’t look to BDSM porn and erotic fiction for information/inspiration they are fantasy and real BDSM involves a lot of non-sexy philosophy and safety practices. Go to sites like those I linked above or hook up with your local in-person community through fetlife.com to find communities of real kinky people who can help get you started.  

 

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If you’re interested in participating in this series, or just writing some short content for us, please slide into my Twitter DMs (@IAmMissRuby) or email me at [email protected]  

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