An Assortment of (mainly) #BDSM and Kink Questions: Dom/Wolf/Daddy Nikki Echelon

By 2019-08-05Uncategorized

As often as possible, Collared Girls highlights a person or persons within the BDSM/kink community. Each have been kind enough to answer a series of questions describing their lifestyle, offering advice to others, and just having some fun (FYI: The answer to #8 should ALWAYS be “crunchy”). We know each of us have a different vantage point and view of our Dominance and submissiveness. We want to know more. By knowing more, we learn more. And isn’t our lifestyle, in all its variations, about learning and guiding and growing in order to be better people, more open and honest and happier? We are all slightly different in our practices and seeing and reading and hearing what others in our community do often helps inform our own practices. This week, we are happy to post the answers to our questions from Nikki Echelon (Instagram).

Ten or So Questions for Dominants:

  • What type of Dominant do you describe yourself as (Daddy/Mommy, Lifestyle, Financial, etc.)?

I would say my Daddy Dom persona is humble kind , nurturing, attentive and forgetful and the most human.  Wolf persona is passionate, confident, fierce,  aggressive , protective and creative when it comes to our play scenes. We recently did a Vampire vs Werewolf one, where I entered our home ( her lair ) with all lights turned off and had suspenseful instrumental music playing in the background as I haunted & hunted her. It was super creepy and thrilling primal sex scene.

  • How would you describe being a Dominant to the layperson?

That’s hard for me because I think that it’s all subjective. It really does not have to be that much different from any other relationship outside of being connected with the choices we make in that relationship with purpose instead of falling into stereotypical roles that society has set for us just because. I believe there is an outlining guide when you choose to do the research on what that looks like and then you fill the most important parts in to fit your needs and your subs needs as well. However one should try and know thyself and be true to that because then it will help when having a submissive in terms of a sort of guide. But always remain teachable and fluid. Allowing you and your sub the space for change. Don’t become rigid.  Understanding why you choose that role is important to, as well as being honest with yourself about that for obvious and not so obvious reasons.  

  • How’d you get started? Tell us about how you discovered your dominant persona?

I would say being attracted to the more aggressive side of sex is where it began. And over the years it just naturally developed into more of a intimacy trait. I think with having being given the opportunity to be more dominant by a sub will allow one to see if they have it in them.  

  • What is your favorite toy? Do you have a set of beloved go-to toys that you enjoy most of all? Would you share with us what they might be?

My favorite toy is My Submissive 😜!  The toys I enjoy to play with her with are The Magic Wand, Dragon Tail , Nipple Clamps , Cane, and Platic Bag over her head.   

  • What is the one thing that’s most misunderstood about our lifestyle?

  I don’t know really. I guess it would be that everyone else is normal and we are the weirdos… but if being more of a complete version of myself is weird…then ” LET’S GET WEIRD “!  

  • Describe your relationship status (single, poly, married and poly, D/s only with no outside involvement, etc.):

BF & GF  to keep it simple. But honestly I feel that is an understatement because she is the love of my life… I always tell her that in a world where it possible for people to see how they can possibly do better and have better,  I cant see past her… theres is nothing after her. I cant even picture it, literally.  She is the edge of my world.  We are hoping to have a 3rd person to join us for PLAY ONLY. But no rush…  

  • Totally random: If you could be any other creature (besides human), what would it be and why?

I guess it would be a house cat with siblings ( cause that’s the life, if you have awesome owners) or an Red Wood Tree… I like the life span 🤣🤣.  

  • Another totally random question: Crunchy or smooth peanut butter, and why?

Smooth because it’s easier for me to dip my pretzel sticks into.  

  • What’s been you BEST/most rewarding experience in the lifestyle?

That I get to explore my sexuality in a safe place and in that become a fuller version of myself.  

  • Conversely, what’s been your worst experience?

 Becoming the Fuller version of myself has a shit ton of growing pains and confusion.   

  • What are your favorite sites? They don’t even need to be BDSM/kink related.

Don’t really visit many websites…but I guess we probably just call then apps now🤦‍♂️. So I guess I would say YouTube,  Instagram,  Facebook… it used to Amazon but I’m broke now…hahaha.  

  • What advice do you have for newbies to the lifestyle? What do you recommend as the first step into BDSM people take? Why?

To thine own self be true. As far as a first step goes…if your reading this you have already taken that step. Next is action and more action.  Your path is your path…BDSM is a guide and outline,  you are responsible for filling in the blanks. Power is not given,  its assumed. And if you want that power dynamic get educated.  And as Albert Einstein said “Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid”. So don’t do BDSM the way everyone does it… find what works for you and be willing to be a fool for a while until you become a master by trial and error. You will become more valuable to someone if you have made mistakes and have learned from them then never have tried at all.   Check out the other posts you may have missed:

  If you’re interested in participating in this series, or just writing some short content for us, please slide into my Twitter DMs (@IAmMissRuby) or email me at [email protected]    

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