An Assortment of (mainly) BDSM and Kink Questions: Daddy Dominant Mike (@friartuck379)

By 2019-01-23Uncategorized
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Each week (hopefully), Collared Girls will be highlighting a person or persons within the BDSM/kink community. Each have been kind enough to answer a series of questions describing their lifestyle, offering advice to others, and just having some fun (FYI: The answer to #8 should ALWAYS be “crunchy”).

We know each of us have a different vantage point and view of our Dominance and submissiveness. We want to know more. By knowing more, we learn more. And isn’t our lifestyle, in all its variations, about learning and guiding and growing in order to be better people, more open and honest and happier? We are all slightly different in our practices and seeing and reading and hearing what others in our community do often helps inform our own practices.

This week, we are happy to post the answers to our questions from Mike:

 

  • What type of Dominant do you describe yourself as (Daddy/Mommy, Lifestyle, Financial, etc.)?

I would consider Myself a Daddy Dom.

 

  • How would you describe being a Dominant to the layperson?

W/we live 24/7 so I would say, it’s another person who I love very much that is entrusting Me with their well-being. And I get to spank them too 😉 

 

  • How’d you get started? Tell us about how you discovered your dominant persona?

During sex My girl asked Me to spank her, and that’s how W/we started O/our journey.

 

  • What is your favorite toy? Do you have a set of beloved go-to toys that you enjoy most of all? Would you share with us what they might be?

I have a pair of matched floggers that are made from bicycle inner tubes. I’ve been complemented more than once on My ability to Florentine.

 

  • What is the one thing that’s most misunderstood about our lifestyle?

As to misunderstandings of this lifestyle; most people assume the Dominant holds the power in the relationship, not realizing that the submissive’s consent is the real power that is wielded. I strive every day to maintain the gift of her submission that she gives to Me.

 

  • Describe your relationship status (single, poly, married and poly, D/s only with no outside involvement, etc.):

Married with ethical non-monogamy sprinkled in from time to time.

 

  • Totally random: If you could be any other creature (besides human), what would it be and why?

A beaver. They find a mate and mate for life. They also hold hands with each other when they sleep so they don’t float away from one another.

 

  • Another totally random question: Crunchy or smooth peanut butter, and why?

Crunchy in spirit, but My sensitive teeth say creamy.

 

  • What’s been you BEST/most rewarding experience in the lifestyle?

Watching the center of My universe develop her sense of worth and seeing her develop into an amazing person and being allowed to go on that journey with her. I’ve also been able to expand My own personality and be more honest about what I need/want.

 

  • Conversely, what’s been your worst experience?

Whenever a scene goes awry, I always feel bad. 

 

  • What are your favorite sites? They don’t even need to be BDSM/kink related.

I like Twitter, as it allows Me to be My most open about who I am.

 

  • What advice do you have for newbies to the lifestyle? What do you recommend as the first step into BDSM people take? Why? 

START SLOW!!! GO SLOW!!! PROCEED SLOW!!! SLOOOOWWWWW. When you hurry or try to force things, YOU WILL NOT GET OUT OF THIS LIFESTYLE WHAT YOU WANT BY RUSHING THINGS!!! I HATED hearing this when W/we started this lifestyle, but it’s still the most prevalent advice I’ve been given. 

And also, keep an open mind. My kinks may not be your kink but treat it like sprinkles on ice cream. I could put 4 pounds of sprinkles on 1 scoop of ice cream. My princess won’t touch ice cream if it has sprinkles on it. Neither is right or wrong, it’s all a matter of preference.

Check out the other posts you may have missed:

If you’re interested in participating in this series, or just writing some short content for us, please slide into my Twitter DMs (@IAmMissRuby) or email me at [email protected]

 

Miss Ruby

Miss Ruby

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