BDSM Power Subs: Taking and Owning What’s Theirs, A New subset of submissives?

By 2019-06-12Uncategorized

After two years of working and playing with a submissive of Mine who’s My BFF too, I realized that none of the current titles or terms for submissives worked with her. She fit none of them. Then it hit me on May 1, 2019. She’s none of these, but also all of the submissive subset. I believe she epitomizes a completely difference type of submissive who takes and Owns their power. She certainly has characteristics of a slave, a service sub, a sub who would thrive in a 24/7 dynamic. But she wasn’t a brat or a little or any of those types of submissive. Instead, she is what I call a “power sub.”

I’ve realized there’s a special kind of #BDSM submissive. They are what I call a “power sub”: a submissive who relishes the idea of taking control from someone else in some way, but who is not a switch.

It’s not as simple as that though.

I’ll try to explain…

What is a “Power Sub”?

A power submissive is not about possessiveness. They are about Owning themselves, their submissiveness but letting everyone know they are their Master’s, their Mommy’s, their Daddy’s, their Sir’s, their Mistress’s, etc.

That sounds like possessiveness, but isn’t…

Here are a couple examples of what I mean:

  • A power submissive will sleep in the bed where the Dominant and their spouse sleep when the spouse is away. But they won’t sleep on the opposite side of the bed. They will sleep in the dent on the spouse’s side of the bed, thereby claiming it as their own.
  • Creating a fantasy where they dominate those who’ve hurt their Dominant in some manner.
  • It may also take the form of marking their Dominant in a way that can be seen by others for a bit longer than the Dominant hoped for. Let me tell you a story…

I’m not a fan of having marks left on Me. I have never enjoyed hickies, love bites or whatever name you want to give them. Never. But I allowed a sub to mark her Master recently. My offer was simple: She had roughly 48 hours from the moment We saw each other to mark Me from the collarbone down. Admittedly, I got lost in the moment, because she became so intense. I DO love pain from nails and biting (just not the bite marks). The sensation of the bites and her nails made Me lose focus a bit. And in that lost focus, she made sure that I was marked so profoundly that her love for Me—as displayed through those bit marks—would last a great deal longer than I had wanted. She admitted that she’d done it on purpose, gone harder than I’d hoped, in order to, for the lack of a better word at the moment, show others to whom I belong.

It seems like Topping from the bottom in some way, I suppose. And maybe that’s what this variation of submissive is: A sub who knows when to Top and when to serve.

Taking Power

In this way, they take power over and “own” all those connected to their Dominant and themselves. It’s like how animals mark their territory, obviously.

While seemingly possessive, they also do not have an issue with their Dominant having other subs. They know their position of power.

Furthermore, a “power submissive” isn’t an alpha sub, per se. There’s cross over, for sure. But this is about owning and taking the power from everyone around them, vanilla & #kink. An alpha sub is the dominant sub within a BDSM dynamic. It’s not about running other subs or knowing their place as the number one submissive in the Dominant’s life. It’s about ensuring they Own the power while still being a wonderful submissive to their Dominant.

These types of submissives are strong, powerful women and men. They will tell you when they think something it wrong. They will question, not out of disrespect, but out of love and the need to understand the motivations behind the actions. They will be a somewhat pain in the ass, but they are also the some of the most devoted, loving, caring and wonderful submissives, because they know how to claim what is theirs as much as their Dominant knows how to Own them.

THOUGHTS?

Miss Ruby

Miss Ruby

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