Dangerous Attraction: Does BDSM Attract Those with Antisocial Personality Disorders? PART I

By 2019-05-29Uncategorized

I was approached on Twitter by a follower after they read my piece on Twue Dominants and Emotional Abuse. They asked if I’d consider writing about another, even seedier aspect of BDSM: Dominants with antisocial personality disorders (sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists).

I jumped on the idea. My graduate degree thesis is on the psychological and affective implications of writing in first-year college composition courses. That’s My fancy academic way of saying: I studied how college level writing makes people feel.

I’ve written a good deal on psychology (it was my minor) and writing, so expanding that out to My lifestyle seems a logical extension.

Let Me start with my qualifier: I am NOT formally trained in psychology. I AM trained in research, however. And My I will not be making any diagnoses, simply placing information together for you to be more informed.

Google “BDSM and Mental Health” and on the first page of results you’ll see several links to discussions about how those of Us who practice a BDSM lifestyle of any kind report being less neurotic and more mentally fit.

Notice I said “report”. That’s not scientific. It’s a conclusion based on self-reported self-reflection. But that doesn’t diminish the reports in any way. Instead, it’s very telling.

Consider that the majority of BDSM practitioners DO view themselves as mentally healthier than their vanilla counterparts. Even if there is no scientific evidence as yet, the fact that people say they are better generally means they ARE better.

This positive aspect of BDSM is wonderful. However, there is a side to the community that is terrifying. In “Twue Dom” I wrote about how we are inundated, thanks to social media, by people who claim to be Dominants by various honoraries (Owner, Master, Mistress, God, Sir, Goddess, etc.). I covered the warning signs of these types of Dominants and how similar to the emotional abuser they are.

As I mentioned, the question posed to Me by a more than a couple of submissives is whether I believe BDSM D/s attracts those with personality disorders.Leather Lee Flogger

CAVEAT: I’m not qualified to make anything more than an assessment based on what I’ve seen, read, heard and experienced on social media. I’ll give you my opinion in Part II of this short series of posts looking at whether BDSM attracts those with severe personality disorders.

DEFINING ANTISOCIAL PERSONALITY DISORDER

Let Me start all of this by giving an overview of the way the American Psychological Association’s (APA) Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fifth Edition (DSM-5) defines “personality disorders” like narcissism, and pscyhopathic and sociopathic behaviour, accusations slung around the BDSM community often in a very haphazard manner. First, the latest update uses a blanket term for all disorders of this type: Antisocial Personality disorder (APD). According to DSM 5 Sociopath Diagnostic Definitions And Symptoms, APD is defined as follows:

The following is the criteria for personality disorder, the first step in diagnosing APD using the DSM- 5:

  1. Significant impairments in self (identity or self-direction) and interpersonal (empathy or intimacy) functioning.
  2. One or more pathological personality traits
  3. The impairments in personality are stable across time and consistent in situations
  4. The personality impairments are not better understood as a normative part of a developmental stage or social environment
  5. Substance use or a medical condition is not the only cause

These, then, are the most recent criteria used by the professionals to assess APD, and the ones we must use to assess the question of whether BDSM D/s attracts those with APDs.

 

What Makes a Successful Sociopath & How Can I ID Them?

A successful sociopath or psychopath is able to identify a vulnerability in someone. They are naturally adept a seeing these and using that vulnerability to their advantage. Examples of vulnerabilities in the BDSN community can include a submissive who is desperate to find a Dominant, a submissive who shows or expresses an interest in something that their Dominant doesn’t and has publicized that in some way, or a submissive who has mainly “fuck me” and “cock worship”-type posts. These types of posts will naturally attract those who see the submissive as nothing more than a piece of meat, not as a person. This piece in Psychology Today explains more about what makes for a successful sociopath or psychopath.

Admittedly, this places a great deal of the problem on the submissive. A vulnerable submissive becomes easy prey for these individuals.

This is the hard part. There are so many armchair psychologists and psychiatrists who are analyzing and “diagnosing” others.

We all have O/our biases. If W/we feel slighted in some way, whether disrespected W/we tend to all get focused on that slight in some way, concocting confirmation biases that stay with U/us for a very long time, perhaps forever.

Only a trained professional can truly diagnose someone as having an Antisocial Personality Disorder, but in Part II of this look into the presence of narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths in BDSM, I will cover more specifics on what W/we can do as a community to identify these dangerous people… and I will tell you My personal conclusion on this matter.

 

STAY TUNED FOR PART 2…

Miss Ruby

Miss Ruby

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